* Please note that this is meant to be informative in a humorous way. Those are tips on What Not To Do in an Step-family* things that a husband should take every preacaution to AVOID if he wants a successful marriage.
Always remember that in order to create an evil stepmom, you need to make sure that she feels like an outsider in her own home and that the more alienated she feels the quicker she will become evil. Also remember to create frustration and resentment because those are crucial ingredients for an evil stepmom.
1. Allow your child/children to have more of a say in household affairs than your wife. This method is so effective at turning your wife into an evil stepmother because you grant more power to your children than to your wife who is supposed to be your partner and equal. When you do this it will turn your children into your equal and your wife into the least valued member of the household.
An example of this would be if your wife has just finished decorating part of the living room and your child walks in and takes everything down and redecorates what your wife has just finished. It is effective if you pretend not see what your child has done, but it is far more effective if you yell at your wife for being upset. If you tell her that you want your child to feel at home that will be a great way to tell your wife that you don't want HER to feel at home in her own home. You make her angry and resentful very quickly using this method.
Another example would be after spending a good amount of time planning with your wife a fun family outing for a Saturday, after you tell your children about this outing, they say they don't want to go that they just want to go with you somewhere else, and you actually accept. This communicates to your wife that your children rule the family and what she wants and plans means nothing to you. Keep pushing her down the totem pole and you are sure to have an evil stepmom in no time! There are many other ways to do this, we have only provided you with two examples.
2. Allow your children to disrespect her and make sure that they don't have to do what she says. It is especially helpful if you can tell your wife that she knows nothing about disciplining children right in front of the children. Even more effective if you argue with her and put her down in front of them. Some husbands find that it is beneficial to actually encourage the children to talk down to their wives.
When you do this, you ensure that the children will never listen to your wife, she will be frustrated in almost no time. This will also give your children a tremendous sense of power, knowing that they can do whatever they want to this adult. This is also helpful for raising kids who disrepect their teachers and other adults. Remember, they look to you to see what they can get away with in how they treat your wife. If you don't treat her with respect in front of them and especially if you encourage them not to, they will really treat her bad and make her very resentful (one of the main key ingredients on making an evil stepmom).
3. Don't discipline your children, let them run wild and watch your wife go crazy. Not only is it fun to watch her go crazy, but it fulfills your plan of making her into an evil stepmom! Pretend not to notice their behavior and wait to see how long it takes your wife to do something about it. This way, you don't have to be the bad guy to your own kids AND your children are getting disciplined! Isn't that the best of both worlds?
It is even more helpful to hug and pamper the children, telling them how sorry you are that your wife is being so mean to them. Be sure that they know that your wife was out of line and mean. A very effective way to do this is to yell at your wife in front of the kids for how wrong she was at disciplin them. This will frustrate your wife and make her discipline your kids even harsher the next time that they act up, making her look even worse. Which, of course, makes you look like more of a good guy! Your wife will resent you and your children but at least your kids are getting the discipline that you know they need but you will come out looking like their hero!
4. Ignore your wife when your children are with you...or at least don't give her any kind of physical affection or attention. You wouldn't want to make your children jealous or show them that you love your wife. You know they will complain at your EX if you give attention to your wife. Plus your Ex is already jealous since you re-married and counting down when she'll give up!. She demands all the center attention only for your kids, and you have to PLEASE her otherwise she may threat you to not let your children visit you and so on.
Let her convince you that giving attention to your wife means NEGLECT your kids! You have to help your Ex to ruin your new marriage and show to your wife that you will never give her the attention and right place she NEEDS because your children "must come first". Go ahead and listen carefully the advices of your ex. Tip: pretend to be blind that your Ex is trying to ruin your marriage you can add saying something like your EX acts like that because your wife is mean to your poor little angels that they are always the victims together with your ex-wife. This fact will make your wife jealous, and so resentful over your children and specially will frustrate her deeply.
It helps even more if you tell your wife point-blank that you are not going to give her any affection while your children are with you, that does a great job of making her mad and resentful. Some husbands find that they can turn their wives into evil stepmothers even quicker if they expect their wives to BE AFFECTIONATE with your children during this same time that you are DENYING her affection. Nothing like a good double standard to make her feel unimportant and unloved.
5. Expect your wife to love and care about your children just as much as you do. Even though she has not had the time to bond with them, and the environment is already miserable since your Ex is doing her best at usig your kids to ruin your marriage, plus you are contributing to this. Demand your wife to tell your kids that she loves them and give them hugs, kisses and care about them. If you force her to love them that will make her uncomfortable and awkward, not to mention resentful. An added bonus is to have a double standard and not expect your children to love or even be respectful to(already mentioned in number 4)
6. Allow your ex-wife to have more of say in what goes on in your household than your wife does. This one is similar to number one, but involved your ex lover who doesn't even live in the house. This one can be even more effective than the first one if used correctly. You can make this happen in many different ways.
Every time that your ex calls, no matter what you are doing -- even having an intimate encounter with your wife -- be sure to answer the phone. You can't NOT talk to your ex, afterall she IS the mother of your children. You should talk to her any time, day or night. This tells your wife that she is second and doesn't matter as much to you as your ex does. If your ex demands money, always give it to her no matter how stupid the reasoning is. If your ex's car breaks down be sure to rush over and fix it, no matter how upset your wife would feel about this. Let her dictate exactly how the children's clothes are to be washed and so on.
If you and your wife are planning on getting a dog be sure to consult with your ex, and if she is afraid that a dog might bite one of the children tell your wife that there is no way that you guys are going to get a dog. Or even better, if your wife comes to the marriage with a cat or a dog and your ex thinks the animal could be dangerous throw a fit and order your wife to get rid of her pet. Your ex can threaten to raise the child support or to take you to court, you need to give her whatever she wants to keep her happy. Why would you want to keep your wife happy, the person that lives with you and that you promised to love and cherish?
7. Deny your wife the opportuniy to have a baby if you and your wife are planning on having a baby together be sure to consult your ex about this. She might not feel good about the idea. She might be afraid that your children will be jealous or neglected because of this new baby. If your ex has any concerns, deny your wife the opportunity to have a baby. This is especially effective if your wife has no children of her own. You will definitely have a resentful, angry, evil stepmother in your home in no time. Be sure to throw in the fact that she should be happy and proud if YOUR children are the only children that she gets.
8. State that your children come first no matter what. yell at your wife saying this in front of your children, even better in front of your ex-wife. Your wife will be resentful in no flat time, there are many ways to express this point, we will provide 2 examples:
Go to sleep with your kids (most common cases daughters) specially at weekends, tell your wife that your kids (8-11 years old) feel scare to be by themselves or herself maybe she seen an spider and that is enough reason for you to not sleep with your wife. Tip: you could tell your wife that you will be back within few minutes but you come back at 2am. Your wife will feel let out. You will make her feel that your daughters are like mini-wives, with almost same needs as your wife, but that they come first even at bed time, after all they are still your babies it doesn't matter if they are 9 - 12 year old (worse cases) and about to start their period or already started. Your wife will feel jealous, uncomfortable and awkward. If you want to be specially effective in this area suggest your wife camping for the weekend with your daughter and you all toguether sleep in same tent, nothing more comfortable and romantic for you all, you can also visit some relatives and spend the night with your daughter(s) and wife in same bed, or even better send your wife to sleep on the couch.
9. Insist that your wife take on all, or at least most, of the household chores, don't forget to have her clean your children's rooms as well. Don't do them yourself, you need to spend time with your children. Don't let them do any work around the house because if you do they might not think that your house is fun and they might tell your ex that they don't want to come over anymore. This is especially effective if you and your children are having a LOT of fun or watching tv while your wife is doing housework, especially if she is picking up after you. Be sure to be loud when you and your kids are having fun, you want her to know what she is missing out on while she is washing the dinner dishes. Make certain that you and your children don't pick up your plates to take them to dishwasher, or their dirty clothes, toys on floor. It's the little things that speak volumes. When she tell your kids to clean up their own MESS. Don't let your kids do it.
Tip: If she requires your support on disciplining your own children pretend to be deaf, fell asleep or maybe you suffered amnesia after few seconds she talked to you. Your kids are already too busy with their play station or watching tv. Follow this point literally and your wife will hate the presence of your kids at home more than she already does, which will make her look more like the evil step-mother you are creating
Be certain to criticize all the housework that your wife does even better in front of your kids...and whatever you do, never ever praise her hard work or thank her for it. . Also let your children clear that your wife is the responsible to clean up all their mess and never help her with any housechore.
10. Be sure to love up on your wife when your children are not home. Treat her like a princess, rub her back, kiss her, hug her. Your kids are not there so they won't be jealous and jumping on you on purpose when you give attention to your wife. Tell your wife that you love her, obviously you can't tell that in front of your kids they might get jealous (see number 4) and do all the little things that you know she loves. This way, she is sure to feel the sting of you ignoring her when your children are at home. She will resent their presence in your home, dread their arrivals, and will ignore them even more, which will of course lead to her being the evil stepmom that you want.
11. Embarrass your wife in front of your kids be unrespectful, yell at her. This is almost similar to number 2 and 8 but more effective because you add your rudness at her in front of your kids. Sure your wife already has enough with all the sick drama that your ex-wife is creating with your kids to make your wife's life miserable, but why not to make it even more disgusting and stressful for her, so go ahead and scream at your wife in front of your kids for the most little mistake she may do. Gets even better if you call her names like jealous or inmature.
Don't try to be a grownup and call your wife to talk in private. With this you'll show your wife how ignorant and jerk you can be to degrade her in front of kids that aren't even her own children. Also shows that you give a damn for her feelings and not even to mention that this will be a piece of gossip for your ex-wife delight. This is even much effective when you yell at her taking your children's side it doesn't mater if they acted up, for you they always will be your little angels and you need to make your wife feels like she is always the witch.
Tip: After getting an ugly argument with your wife in front of your kids and take your kids side. Nothing better than take your kids for an special outing without your wife to celebrate the bad argue and how alone your wife was let out. She'll feel how you all enjoy and make that special time from your fights.
With this you'll have a vendictive wife in matter of seconds giving you a taste of your own medicine in front of your kids but twice worse. We recomend you to be careful with this tactic because on your effort on turning her into an evil stepmom. She may vent her anger telling your kids hurtful things about your Ex, divorce or something really embarrasing about you. We GUARANTEE your wife will be furious don't be surprised if some shoes are flying above your head or hit your head. Anyway you love get her mad. Other typical reactions already proven with this tactic is: she gets in in the car cursing you in front of your kids, "She will give them the cold shoulder", She may not come back tomorrow, She may come back with another man to pick up her things and so on.
Warning: This is one of the most powerful techniques to have an agry bitter and resentful wife specially if you want she files for divorce as soon as possible.
12. Talk about your past like it was the good old days, especially how much you miss those days. This works especially well when your children are with you because then you guys can talk about all kinds of events that your wife was not at, assuring that she will be left out of the conversation. But even when your children are not home you can tell your wife about all the great times that are long gone. Talk about how great things were with your children and the things you did together before she was in the picture ...and be sure to mention that you wish things weren't so stressful now. Don't forget to mention how worried you are about your children because of all the stress that they feel from your wife.
Some husbands even find it to be especially effective if they talk about their past with their ex a lot. If you decide to do this, be sure to talk about the times with her in the best positive light. If she was your first love or a high school sweetheart it is beneficial to bring that up to your wife a lot. Nothing like reminding her of all the firsts that she missed out on in your life. If you have old pictures, that is even better!!
13. Interfere when your children and your wife are having a dispute. You wouldn't want them to work it out on their own and build their relationship in the process. If you were to let them work out their disputes themselves they would be working together and you can't have that if you want your wife to be an evil stepmom. Be sure to jump right in on their fight and of course you want to take your children's side. They could stop seeing you as a hero if you stood up to them for your wife. To make sure that you remain in hero status, be sure to reprimand your wife for arguing with your children, and if you can throw in words like immature, jealous and mean that is especially helpful.
14. Blame all your children's bad qualities on your wife and take credit for all of their good qualities. This one works especially well if you have been following number 3 and 9 and have your wife doing all the housework and disciplining of your children. You get the credit for all the good that they do simply because you supplied the DNA. Your wife gets blamed on their bad qualities because you have done such a good job at turning her into an evil stepmom and as a result she has treated your little angels so poorly. You get to come out the hero once again.
15. Give your wife all the childcare responsibilities. (see also number 9) Be sure that she is doing everything for the kids. Make sure that it is her responsibility to give the kids baths, get their homework done, get driven everywhere, and fed. This way you are ensured that she will be resentful. There are many husbands who find this method very effective for turning their wives into evil stepmoms. Maybe you are working, maybe you are taking care of the yard, maybe you are fixing the cars, whatever is your heroic excuse to avoid the chore of attending your biological children. As a result, you will have your wife feeling unappreciated and misunderstood in no time. When you employ this method be sure that you spend as little time with your kids as possible, afterall why should you cook, clean for your kids, that's why your new wife is there for. Why your kids would want to spend time with you doing their own chores, your own responsabilities?. If you want to take this even further and assure your chances of turning your wife into an evil stepmother be sure to criticize everything that your wife did for your children while you were not there...and don't forget to make her feel bad for what she didn't do!
16. Allow your ex-wife to get in your marriage personal business and dictate how it should be. This is a powerful method reloaded of number 6. Your children doesn't have nothing to do with this, but your ex-wife says IT DOES!. This has inmediate results. Your wife will be so pissed off that she may punch your Ex...ready for the cats fight??
Example 1: If your wife looks nice or sexy and wears mini skirts, tight outfits.... And the cow of your ex wife is not agree with that whatever the excuse she would use like "she is disturbing my boys" anything to justify her ENVY. You have to make her happy and change inmediatly your wife's wardrove, remember she said it's for the SAKE of your children! She might get even more jealous and threat you that your kids won't visit you anymore.
Example 2: You and your wife arranged a romantic trip in the weekend without your kids (you promised her and you already confirmed the trip and she got everything ready for it). Your Ex finds out about this trip and of course she won't like this AT ALL, because your kids must to come first not matter what!! and she has to sabotage your fun. She will come out with an excuse that she had an emergency that weekend and she is on the way to your house to drop your kids off. Of course as the good puppet you are you cannot tell her NOT or she may threat to raise the childsupport.
The cases are many more, other typical ones are: your Ex will demand that you don't even dare to have intimacy with your wife during your kids visitations, remember they get jealous but the more who gets jealous is your Ex and since you are so afraid of her, you better keep her happy or she may tell your kids that you suck as a father since you re-married and your poor children are the ones who are paying the consequences of you trying to rebuild your life. Be sure to give your ex control over all kinds of decisions that go on in YOUR home, afterall she is the mother of your children and your children stay with you. Take her advice on interior and exterior decorating, especially if what she suggests goes against what your wife wants.
17. Deny your wife to have any vacacions, trips, or weekend outing for the two of you
Don't even give her the chance to have a time out without your kids. You know that your kids must come first specially over your wife. Why would you want to show your kids that your wife is special and deserves privacy and outings with you as a couple. You don't want to make your kids and Ex jealous. So you have to let your wife clear that you gotta have your kids every weekend and that she is not allowed to have a getaway just with you unless your kids come with you. Or even better let clear that your only outings with her will be when your Ex decide it.
Also insist that she still can have a romantic weekend, with YOU and your KIDS after all you will be there and that should be enough for her to be content. There is no need to get romantic hold hands, cuddle and kiss each other without interruptions. She can have more fun playing with your kids than being alone with you right?.
Now that you know these effective techniques to creating an evil stepmom, you are ready to start! You will have an angry, bitter and resentful wife in no time flat if you can follow all, or at least most, of the steps listed here. These are tried and true ways of turning wives into evil stepmothers. Good luck and enjoy your path to divorce court.
Always remember that in order to create an evil stepmom, you need to make sure that she feels like an outsider in her own home and that the more alienated she feels the quicker she will become evil. Also remember to create frustration and resentment because those are crucial ingredients for an evil stepmom.
1. Allow your child/children to have more of a say in household affairs than your wife. This method is so effective at turning your wife into an evil stepmother because you grant more power to your children than to your wife who is supposed to be your partner and equal. When you do this it will turn your children into your equal and your wife into the least valued member of the household.
An example of this would be if your wife has just finished decorating part of the living room and your child walks in and takes everything down and redecorates what your wife has just finished. It is effective if you pretend not see what your child has done, but it is far more effective if you yell at your wife for being upset. If you tell her that you want your child to feel at home that will be a great way to tell your wife that you don't want HER to feel at home in her own home. You make her angry and resentful very quickly using this method.
Another example would be after spending a good amount of time planning with your wife a fun family outing for a Saturday, after you tell your children about this outing, they say they don't want to go that they just want to go with you somewhere else, and you actually accept. This communicates to your wife that your children rule the family and what she wants and plans means nothing to you. Keep pushing her down the totem pole and you are sure to have an evil stepmom in no time! There are many other ways to do this, we have only provided you with two examples.
2. Allow your children to disrespect her and make sure that they don't have to do what she says. It is especially helpful if you can tell your wife that she knows nothing about disciplining children right in front of the children. Even more effective if you argue with her and put her down in front of them. Some husbands find that it is beneficial to actually encourage the children to talk down to their wives.
When you do this, you ensure that the children will never listen to your wife, she will be frustrated in almost no time. This will also give your children a tremendous sense of power, knowing that they can do whatever they want to this adult. This is also helpful for raising kids who disrepect their teachers and other adults. Remember, they look to you to see what they can get away with in how they treat your wife. If you don't treat her with respect in front of them and especially if you encourage them not to, they will really treat her bad and make her very resentful (one of the main key ingredients on making an evil stepmom).
3. Don't discipline your children, let them run wild and watch your wife go crazy. Not only is it fun to watch her go crazy, but it fulfills your plan of making her into an evil stepmom! Pretend not to notice their behavior and wait to see how long it takes your wife to do something about it. This way, you don't have to be the bad guy to your own kids AND your children are getting disciplined! Isn't that the best of both worlds?
It is even more helpful to hug and pamper the children, telling them how sorry you are that your wife is being so mean to them. Be sure that they know that your wife was out of line and mean. A very effective way to do this is to yell at your wife in front of the kids for how wrong she was at disciplin them. This will frustrate your wife and make her discipline your kids even harsher the next time that they act up, making her look even worse. Which, of course, makes you look like more of a good guy! Your wife will resent you and your children but at least your kids are getting the discipline that you know they need but you will come out looking like their hero!
4. Ignore your wife when your children are with you...or at least don't give her any kind of physical affection or attention. You wouldn't want to make your children jealous or show them that you love your wife. You know they will complain at your EX if you give attention to your wife. Plus your Ex is already jealous since you re-married and counting down when she'll give up!. She demands all the center attention only for your kids, and you have to PLEASE her otherwise she may threat you to not let your children visit you and so on.
Let her convince you that giving attention to your wife means NEGLECT your kids! You have to help your Ex to ruin your new marriage and show to your wife that you will never give her the attention and right place she NEEDS because your children "must come first". Go ahead and listen carefully the advices of your ex. Tip: pretend to be blind that your Ex is trying to ruin your marriage you can add saying something like your EX acts like that because your wife is mean to your poor little angels that they are always the victims together with your ex-wife. This fact will make your wife jealous, and so resentful over your children and specially will frustrate her deeply.
It helps even more if you tell your wife point-blank that you are not going to give her any affection while your children are with you, that does a great job of making her mad and resentful. Some husbands find that they can turn their wives into evil stepmothers even quicker if they expect their wives to BE AFFECTIONATE with your children during this same time that you are DENYING her affection. Nothing like a good double standard to make her feel unimportant and unloved.
5. Expect your wife to love and care about your children just as much as you do. Even though she has not had the time to bond with them, and the environment is already miserable since your Ex is doing her best at usig your kids to ruin your marriage, plus you are contributing to this. Demand your wife to tell your kids that she loves them and give them hugs, kisses and care about them. If you force her to love them that will make her uncomfortable and awkward, not to mention resentful. An added bonus is to have a double standard and not expect your children to love or even be respectful to(already mentioned in number 4)
6. Allow your ex-wife to have more of say in what goes on in your household than your wife does. This one is similar to number one, but involved your ex lover who doesn't even live in the house. This one can be even more effective than the first one if used correctly. You can make this happen in many different ways.
Every time that your ex calls, no matter what you are doing -- even having an intimate encounter with your wife -- be sure to answer the phone. You can't NOT talk to your ex, afterall she IS the mother of your children. You should talk to her any time, day or night. This tells your wife that she is second and doesn't matter as much to you as your ex does. If your ex demands money, always give it to her no matter how stupid the reasoning is. If your ex's car breaks down be sure to rush over and fix it, no matter how upset your wife would feel about this. Let her dictate exactly how the children's clothes are to be washed and so on.
If you and your wife are planning on getting a dog be sure to consult with your ex, and if she is afraid that a dog might bite one of the children tell your wife that there is no way that you guys are going to get a dog. Or even better, if your wife comes to the marriage with a cat or a dog and your ex thinks the animal could be dangerous throw a fit and order your wife to get rid of her pet. Your ex can threaten to raise the child support or to take you to court, you need to give her whatever she wants to keep her happy. Why would you want to keep your wife happy, the person that lives with you and that you promised to love and cherish?
7. Deny your wife the opportuniy to have a baby if you and your wife are planning on having a baby together be sure to consult your ex about this. She might not feel good about the idea. She might be afraid that your children will be jealous or neglected because of this new baby. If your ex has any concerns, deny your wife the opportunity to have a baby. This is especially effective if your wife has no children of her own. You will definitely have a resentful, angry, evil stepmother in your home in no time. Be sure to throw in the fact that she should be happy and proud if YOUR children are the only children that she gets.
8. State that your children come first no matter what. yell at your wife saying this in front of your children, even better in front of your ex-wife. Your wife will be resentful in no flat time, there are many ways to express this point, we will provide 2 examples:
Go to sleep with your kids (most common cases daughters) specially at weekends, tell your wife that your kids (8-11 years old) feel scare to be by themselves or herself maybe she seen an spider and that is enough reason for you to not sleep with your wife. Tip: you could tell your wife that you will be back within few minutes but you come back at 2am. Your wife will feel let out. You will make her feel that your daughters are like mini-wives, with almost same needs as your wife, but that they come first even at bed time, after all they are still your babies it doesn't matter if they are 9 - 12 year old (worse cases) and about to start their period or already started. Your wife will feel jealous, uncomfortable and awkward. If you want to be specially effective in this area suggest your wife camping for the weekend with your daughter and you all toguether sleep in same tent, nothing more comfortable and romantic for you all, you can also visit some relatives and spend the night with your daughter(s) and wife in same bed, or even better send your wife to sleep on the couch.
9. Insist that your wife take on all, or at least most, of the household chores, don't forget to have her clean your children's rooms as well. Don't do them yourself, you need to spend time with your children. Don't let them do any work around the house because if you do they might not think that your house is fun and they might tell your ex that they don't want to come over anymore. This is especially effective if you and your children are having a LOT of fun or watching tv while your wife is doing housework, especially if she is picking up after you. Be sure to be loud when you and your kids are having fun, you want her to know what she is missing out on while she is washing the dinner dishes. Make certain that you and your children don't pick up your plates to take them to dishwasher, or their dirty clothes, toys on floor. It's the little things that speak volumes. When she tell your kids to clean up their own MESS. Don't let your kids do it.
Tip: If she requires your support on disciplining your own children pretend to be deaf, fell asleep or maybe you suffered amnesia after few seconds she talked to you. Your kids are already too busy with their play station or watching tv. Follow this point literally and your wife will hate the presence of your kids at home more than she already does, which will make her look more like the evil step-mother you are creating
Be certain to criticize all the housework that your wife does even better in front of your kids...and whatever you do, never ever praise her hard work or thank her for it. . Also let your children clear that your wife is the responsible to clean up all their mess and never help her with any housechore.
10. Be sure to love up on your wife when your children are not home. Treat her like a princess, rub her back, kiss her, hug her. Your kids are not there so they won't be jealous and jumping on you on purpose when you give attention to your wife. Tell your wife that you love her, obviously you can't tell that in front of your kids they might get jealous (see number 4) and do all the little things that you know she loves. This way, she is sure to feel the sting of you ignoring her when your children are at home. She will resent their presence in your home, dread their arrivals, and will ignore them even more, which will of course lead to her being the evil stepmom that you want.
11. Embarrass your wife in front of your kids be unrespectful, yell at her. This is almost similar to number 2 and 8 but more effective because you add your rudness at her in front of your kids. Sure your wife already has enough with all the sick drama that your ex-wife is creating with your kids to make your wife's life miserable, but why not to make it even more disgusting and stressful for her, so go ahead and scream at your wife in front of your kids for the most little mistake she may do. Gets even better if you call her names like jealous or inmature.
Don't try to be a grownup and call your wife to talk in private. With this you'll show your wife how ignorant and jerk you can be to degrade her in front of kids that aren't even her own children. Also shows that you give a damn for her feelings and not even to mention that this will be a piece of gossip for your ex-wife delight. This is even much effective when you yell at her taking your children's side it doesn't mater if they acted up, for you they always will be your little angels and you need to make your wife feels like she is always the witch.
Tip: After getting an ugly argument with your wife in front of your kids and take your kids side. Nothing better than take your kids for an special outing without your wife to celebrate the bad argue and how alone your wife was let out. She'll feel how you all enjoy and make that special time from your fights.
With this you'll have a vendictive wife in matter of seconds giving you a taste of your own medicine in front of your kids but twice worse. We recomend you to be careful with this tactic because on your effort on turning her into an evil stepmom. She may vent her anger telling your kids hurtful things about your Ex, divorce or something really embarrasing about you. We GUARANTEE your wife will be furious don't be surprised if some shoes are flying above your head or hit your head. Anyway you love get her mad. Other typical reactions already proven with this tactic is: she gets in in the car cursing you in front of your kids, "She will give them the cold shoulder", She may not come back tomorrow, She may come back with another man to pick up her things and so on.
Warning: This is one of the most powerful techniques to have an agry bitter and resentful wife specially if you want she files for divorce as soon as possible.
12. Talk about your past like it was the good old days, especially how much you miss those days. This works especially well when your children are with you because then you guys can talk about all kinds of events that your wife was not at, assuring that she will be left out of the conversation. But even when your children are not home you can tell your wife about all the great times that are long gone. Talk about how great things were with your children and the things you did together before she was in the picture ...and be sure to mention that you wish things weren't so stressful now. Don't forget to mention how worried you are about your children because of all the stress that they feel from your wife.
Some husbands even find it to be especially effective if they talk about their past with their ex a lot. If you decide to do this, be sure to talk about the times with her in the best positive light. If she was your first love or a high school sweetheart it is beneficial to bring that up to your wife a lot. Nothing like reminding her of all the firsts that she missed out on in your life. If you have old pictures, that is even better!!
13. Interfere when your children and your wife are having a dispute. You wouldn't want them to work it out on their own and build their relationship in the process. If you were to let them work out their disputes themselves they would be working together and you can't have that if you want your wife to be an evil stepmom. Be sure to jump right in on their fight and of course you want to take your children's side. They could stop seeing you as a hero if you stood up to them for your wife. To make sure that you remain in hero status, be sure to reprimand your wife for arguing with your children, and if you can throw in words like immature, jealous and mean that is especially helpful.
14. Blame all your children's bad qualities on your wife and take credit for all of their good qualities. This one works especially well if you have been following number 3 and 9 and have your wife doing all the housework and disciplining of your children. You get the credit for all the good that they do simply because you supplied the DNA. Your wife gets blamed on their bad qualities because you have done such a good job at turning her into an evil stepmom and as a result she has treated your little angels so poorly. You get to come out the hero once again.
15. Give your wife all the childcare responsibilities. (see also number 9) Be sure that she is doing everything for the kids. Make sure that it is her responsibility to give the kids baths, get their homework done, get driven everywhere, and fed. This way you are ensured that she will be resentful. There are many husbands who find this method very effective for turning their wives into evil stepmoms. Maybe you are working, maybe you are taking care of the yard, maybe you are fixing the cars, whatever is your heroic excuse to avoid the chore of attending your biological children. As a result, you will have your wife feeling unappreciated and misunderstood in no time. When you employ this method be sure that you spend as little time with your kids as possible, afterall why should you cook, clean for your kids, that's why your new wife is there for. Why your kids would want to spend time with you doing their own chores, your own responsabilities?. If you want to take this even further and assure your chances of turning your wife into an evil stepmother be sure to criticize everything that your wife did for your children while you were not there...and don't forget to make her feel bad for what she didn't do!
16. Allow your ex-wife to get in your marriage personal business and dictate how it should be. This is a powerful method reloaded of number 6. Your children doesn't have nothing to do with this, but your ex-wife says IT DOES!. This has inmediate results. Your wife will be so pissed off that she may punch your Ex...ready for the cats fight??
Example 1: If your wife looks nice or sexy and wears mini skirts, tight outfits.... And the cow of your ex wife is not agree with that whatever the excuse she would use like "she is disturbing my boys" anything to justify her ENVY. You have to make her happy and change inmediatly your wife's wardrove, remember she said it's for the SAKE of your children! She might get even more jealous and threat you that your kids won't visit you anymore.
Example 2: You and your wife arranged a romantic trip in the weekend without your kids (you promised her and you already confirmed the trip and she got everything ready for it). Your Ex finds out about this trip and of course she won't like this AT ALL, because your kids must to come first not matter what!! and she has to sabotage your fun. She will come out with an excuse that she had an emergency that weekend and she is on the way to your house to drop your kids off. Of course as the good puppet you are you cannot tell her NOT or she may threat to raise the childsupport.
The cases are many more, other typical ones are: your Ex will demand that you don't even dare to have intimacy with your wife during your kids visitations, remember they get jealous but the more who gets jealous is your Ex and since you are so afraid of her, you better keep her happy or she may tell your kids that you suck as a father since you re-married and your poor children are the ones who are paying the consequences of you trying to rebuild your life. Be sure to give your ex control over all kinds of decisions that go on in YOUR home, afterall she is the mother of your children and your children stay with you. Take her advice on interior and exterior decorating, especially if what she suggests goes against what your wife wants.
17. Deny your wife to have any vacacions, trips, or weekend outing for the two of you
Don't even give her the chance to have a time out without your kids. You know that your kids must come first specially over your wife. Why would you want to show your kids that your wife is special and deserves privacy and outings with you as a couple. You don't want to make your kids and Ex jealous. So you have to let your wife clear that you gotta have your kids every weekend and that she is not allowed to have a getaway just with you unless your kids come with you. Or even better let clear that your only outings with her will be when your Ex decide it.
Also insist that she still can have a romantic weekend, with YOU and your KIDS after all you will be there and that should be enough for her to be content. There is no need to get romantic hold hands, cuddle and kiss each other without interruptions. She can have more fun playing with your kids than being alone with you right?.
Now that you know these effective techniques to creating an evil stepmom, you are ready to start! You will have an angry, bitter and resentful wife in no time flat if you can follow all, or at least most, of the steps listed here. These are tried and true ways of turning wives into evil stepmothers. Good luck and enjoy your path to divorce court.
